‘The Sure Thing’ by Elana Auerbach - A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark
The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark is a new book by Elana Auerbach, set to be released on February 3, 2026, published by Flower of Life Press.
The Sure Thing reignites the sizzle that once was.
Are you frustrated with your sex life? Hungry for reliable sensual satisfaction? Ready to fall more in love—especially with yourself?
The Sure Thing is your invitation to bring joy, intimacy, and passion back into your relationship. Drawing from a weekly practice that transformed her own relationship, Elana Auerbach offers a clear, accessible, and fun approach to reconnecting with your desire—and with each other. You’ll learn how to release shame, understand what you really want, create a ritual of pleasure, and meet resistance with play instead of pressure. This book makes it easy to revive the spark and keep it alive. If you’re ready for more connection, more pleasure, and more fulfillment, this book will show you the way.
Whether you’re single or partnered, The Sure Thing pleasure practice will help you reclaim the spark—and the self—you thought you’d lost.
Elana Auerbach has spent years guiding people into their sensual aliveness. But this book is personal. For twelve years, she and her spouse struggled over sex. They tried pretty much everything—sexpert advice, toys, techniques—but nothing changed until Elana created The Sure Thing.
Inside, you’ll discover:
How to break free from shame, conditioning, and the pressure to “perform” intimacy
Why most couples drift apart—and how to reverse that through intention and play
How to navigate resistance and rekindle curiosity
A step-by-step guide to crafting your own fulfilling Sure Thing practice
Why a weekly ritual can transform not just your sex life, but your entire relationship with pleasure
This is not another chore to add to your self-improvement list. It’s an invitation back to your innate vitality and pleasure.
Advance Praise:
“The Sure Thing isn’t just a book—it’s an invitation back into your body and your pleasure. Elana has this rare way of making intimacy feel accessible, playful, and deeply sacred all at once. As a sexologist and intimacy coach, I’ve read countless books on connection, but this one hit differently—it made me slow down, breathe, and remember that desire isn’t something we wait for; it’s something we create. I especially loved the simplicity of her ‘weekly pleasure date’ practice—it’s proof that consistency, not spontaneity, is what truly reignites passion. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body or your partner, this book will remind you that it doesn’t take a miracle to feel alive again—just a little intention and a lot of curiosity.” —Dr. Stacy Friedman, Podcast host of Purple Passion Project and Clinical Sexologist/Certified Sex Coach
“The Sure Thing has more exercises to help people think about, discuss, explore and have sex than I’ve seen in any other book! I look forward to recommending it to my clients to help them open up more to what it means to explore intimacy with each other.” —Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, Author of I Want This To Work
“The Sure Thing is a brilliant solution to a painful struggle many couples face. After twenty years as a Relationship and Dating Coach, I wholeheartedly believe this book can shift a fizzling sex life into one that not only satisfies, but also supports partners to fall more in love with themselves and each other, to give and support more generously, and to feel truly loved. I already have couples I’d recommend it to, and I know it will be an incredible resource for so many!” —Shana James, MA, Author of Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive
“Elana warmly invites you to explore a cornucopia of practices, rituals, exercises, and games that make it easy to go step-by-step from wherever you are now to where you dream of being! She offers a gentle hand to guide you on an empowerment journey, providing a practical guide to erotic self-discovery, sexual fulfillment, and discovering your pleasure potential.” —Sheri Winston, Wholistic Sexuality Teacher, Author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal, Founder of the Intimate Arts Center
“The Sure Thing is a wildly entertaining and instructive roadmap to self discovery, intimacy and joy. Elana’s committed activism, inspired optimism, and practical, down-to-earth advice and exercises made it hard for me to put this book down. For anyone seeking more pleasure in their lives, this book is a sure thing AND a must read.” —Liz Childs Kelly, award-winning author of Home to Her: Walking the Transformative Path of the Sacred Feminine
About the Author:
Elana Auerbach is a lover, mother, mentor, activist, and priestess. She spent her childhood and young adulthood on what she calls “the conveyor belt of life,” being the good girl and doing what others expected of her. This looked like graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street for a Japanese investment bank, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry.
It all fell apart in 2001 when Elana realized she’d been living a lie and found the courage to leave her marriage. She entered a world of sensuality and sex, researching orgasm in a San Francisco pleasure-centered community. This is where she met Bill, who would become her loverman for life.
In 2005, Elana founded “Sensuelle: A Woman’s Journey into Sensuality,” a program supporting women to fall in love with themselves, connect with their authentic voice, and ignite their passion. Then, in 2011, a few years after becoming an ordained priestess with the Sanctuary of the 13 Moon Mystery School, Elana was certified to teach their year-long immersion into the feminine mysteries, where she taught for over a decade.
While Elana has a wealth of professional experience guiding women deeper into their bodies and their pleasure, The Sure Thing comes directly from her personal life. After years of frustration and failed gimmicks to try to respark her and Bill’s sex life, Elana created The Sure Thing. She wrote this book because she wants everyone to have access to this life altering practice.
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To learn more, visit https://surethingexperiment.com